I am usually the least interested in discussing about the 'M' word. But with so many people around me getting into it & talking about it, I am forced to let my mind think about it & try to understand what it is all about.
According to me marriage , living-ins are basically the same. As the essence of commitment should be felt by d two individuals & not enforced upon them by societal pressure.. If all people in relationships feel so it would definitely bring more earnestness in the union, call it by whatever name.. I know that it may seem inappropriate to cite d example of brad & angelina.. coz indian society continues to be hypocritical .. (partly coz I am an ardent fan of angie).. But human relations ought to be the same world over.. Both of them love each other stay together, raise kids together with both being equally committed to their kids emotionally as well as legally.. Just like any other family.. The only difference is that they hven't gone through a process of a wedding!
Is this possible in an Indian set-up.. ? Though I would love to say yes.. The truth is v r still bound by d shackles of age old traditions.. But quiet aware of d global thought.. Thus, creating a weird concoction of thoughts..
I definitely don't wanna sound anti-marriage.. For me its just a celebration of love & full time companionship. An occasion to socialize with long lost friends & family & seek there blessings & well wishes before embarking on a beautiful journey together.
But it isn't as simple as that is it? Since times immemorial weddings were always known as an expensive affair.. But now its a crazy industry driven by peoples' carnal desire to show -off their wealth/ hospitality.. But inspite of everything you do the guests are always going to have something to say about the biryani you served or the liquor collection you had..
So for the middle-class it is therefore preferable to save that sizeable portion of wealth for a luxurious retirement, or the world tour which they always thought of indulging in. But people fear social ostracization.. the fear of losing social standing drives people to conform to the drivel. Most of which is pretty outdated. Unfortunately, it is true that it easier to conform to d standards then to explain to each & every person u know about your radical views. Most of whom are boneheaded & unreceptive of new thoughts.
The most common accusation is of having loose character & lack of respect for ones culture. Culture is something that needs to be understood from the core & its fundamental values should be adapted into our modern lives. Blindly aping it without knowing its essence is shameful.
The mid- path would be a registered marriage. Ironically, for some that piece of paper called marriage certificate would make all the difference on d world.
The most common idea is that people living in don't need to have commitment towards each other. This attitude can turn quiet dangerous. It should be more like the, ' We are together & we need not prove to he world that we are together attitude.'
So the bottomline is, what do I conclude at the end of my ramblings?.. Which cause m I supporting?.. My answer is, none in particular. I feel that it is a personal decision based on existing circumstances. Most importantly people should not be judgemental of others & relationships r to be valued higher than rituals.
As for me, I'll probably go for a 'big fat Indian wedding'.. Atleast if I think so, I'll be driven to increase my bank balance ;). Cheers!
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Sunday, April 3, 2011
My Hero
.. 20-20 world cup winners,No.1 team in test cricket, IPL Trophy, ,.. & now the wold cup !! His performance has SHUT UP every1 who had ever written him off, wanted him to be sacked questioned his decisions or called him a FLUKE.. DHONI is an analyst par excellence, shrewd manager of talent. He will remain one of the BEST captains cricket will ever produce .. & his humility & grace in victory is seen in the way he happily let his team mates bask in the glory while he himself slipped into oblivion retaining his trademark coolness & composure. Could anyone have imagined that a few years ago that this erstwhile ticket collector from Ranchi would change the face of the game..Love u Dhoni-u inspire me.. U r my mentor..
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Can't explain this feeling within me...
Did you ever fall for someone you know you shouldn't?
Try hard to fight your feelings, but you just couldn't?
You fall deeper with each passing day,
But try to hide it in every possible way.
He's only a friend, and nothing else--
That's the lie you keeping telling yourself.
You keep on saying he's just a bud,
But deep inside, you're falling in love.
You get so giddy when you meet his eyes,
But keep reminding yourself it isn't right.
A simple glance turns into a stare,
But you pretned that you don't care.
It's "not right" for you two to be.
Is that why you hide it so no one can see?
But how long will you pretend?
Keep lying that he's just a friend?
Perhaps your feelings you can never show.
Perhaps it's "wrong" for him to know.
Your friendship can't be risked over this,
So being his girl is an impossible wish...
Try hard to fight your feelings, but you just couldn't?
You fall deeper with each passing day,
But try to hide it in every possible way.
He's only a friend, and nothing else--
That's the lie you keeping telling yourself.
You keep on saying he's just a bud,
But deep inside, you're falling in love.
You get so giddy when you meet his eyes,
But keep reminding yourself it isn't right.
A simple glance turns into a stare,
But you pretned that you don't care.
It's "not right" for you two to be.
Is that why you hide it so no one can see?
But how long will you pretend?
Keep lying that he's just a friend?
Perhaps your feelings you can never show.
Perhaps it's "wrong" for him to know.
Your friendship can't be risked over this,
So being his girl is an impossible wish...
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Perceptions of Life
My career has always been one of my top priorities. I continue to work hard on my career. But sometimes I do feel that for all the hard work I put in the results I get could be much better. There are people who don’t put in half as much work that I put in, plagiarize others work, make the best possible use of sweet talk and use many other shortcuts to get there work done. So what should I do about it. I obviously cannot stop them from doing what they do. So should I also feel that all the work I am putting in is meaningless. Thats when I remembered one of the great Quotes of Rancho from '3 Idiots'..
“Never try to be successful, pursue excellence
Success is the bye product & the result
Excellence always creates Success & it is a process of continual improvement
Never run after success
Let it happen automatically in life”
I then realized that I work for works sake. I enjoy being a designer & I work without any expectations of money or fame. After all these five years, I can now say finally become a Purist! It is not about the marks, its all about the self satisfaction u get when you produce your baby. And believe me this has worked for me in the past one year. When you work on anything with utmost passion, It gets reflected in your work. And I am happy that today, most of the profs think highly of my work.
But then again, my colleagues aren’t too pleased about it. For every single praise I get from my superiors, there is lot of backbiting and gossip aiming to malign me. It used to disturb me earlier. But now, I just pity them. Whenever I see someone doing better then me, I get influenced by them and try to emulate their qualities. I now feel that I better now not feel depressed due to the loneliness induced by others, who I earlier called friends. The positive part is that I could finally separate the wheat from the chaff and get to know the people who are true to me.
Its not the quantity of friends that matters. Its their qualities that matter. I don’t feel the need to change myself for anyone’s sake. Neither do I feel the need to conform to the trends. If people accept me the way I am , its good. If people don’t, its even better. Ultimately, each one of us is fighting his or her lone battles. It’s my passion that remains my ultimate driving force.
“Never try to be successful, pursue excellence
Success is the bye product & the result
Excellence always creates Success & it is a process of continual improvement
Never run after success
Let it happen automatically in life”
I then realized that I work for works sake. I enjoy being a designer & I work without any expectations of money or fame. After all these five years, I can now say finally become a Purist! It is not about the marks, its all about the self satisfaction u get when you produce your baby. And believe me this has worked for me in the past one year. When you work on anything with utmost passion, It gets reflected in your work. And I am happy that today, most of the profs think highly of my work.
But then again, my colleagues aren’t too pleased about it. For every single praise I get from my superiors, there is lot of backbiting and gossip aiming to malign me. It used to disturb me earlier. But now, I just pity them. Whenever I see someone doing better then me, I get influenced by them and try to emulate their qualities. I now feel that I better now not feel depressed due to the loneliness induced by others, who I earlier called friends. The positive part is that I could finally separate the wheat from the chaff and get to know the people who are true to me.
Its not the quantity of friends that matters. Its their qualities that matter. I don’t feel the need to change myself for anyone’s sake. Neither do I feel the need to conform to the trends. If people accept me the way I am , its good. If people don’t, its even better. Ultimately, each one of us is fighting his or her lone battles. It’s my passion that remains my ultimate driving force.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
South Canara – A Tropical Paradise in every way
It’s been a while since my last post. I finally found the time and urge to blog about after a refreshing trip to Karnataka. With lots of spare time on my hands owing to the ongoing vacations, I now begin to write my most detailed travelogue ever.
A family vacation is what everyone looks forward to.. But I had second thoughts about it.. My disinclination was mostly based on my exhaustion than anything else. I was fresh from the month long bombardment of exams and juries and all I needed was some time to unwind before commencing on any journey. My family practically forced me to join them and thank God they did. It would have been extremely unfortunate to have missed it.
I was wrong about the trip right from day one, I half expected it to be a sort of pilgrimage but it was in fact a delightful blend of fun & relaxation. The best part of the trip was that there was absolutely no planning involved as we had just decided to go the previous night before departure. With no booking whatsoever, we just went with the flow as we explored one location after another.
Our first stop was the coastal temple town of Udupi. We reached there in the morning & the ride there by bus was quiet pleasurable. There were these quaint little cottages with mangalore tiled roofs surrounded with lush greenery on all sides Some even had the backside of the cottages directly facing the sea. All that was required was a hammock tied between two coconut trees and Voila! you have your own house cum Beach resort. If a person ever gets bored of the sea (If at all such a thing is possible) there are always these thickly forested hills running adjacent to the sea side .With such abundant natural beauty, it is obvious that any person would fall in love with the place.
We visited the Shri Krishna Temple & set off by car to Kollur travelling across the Mukambika Wildlife Sanctuary and then to Shringeri travelling across the dense Agumbe Forest where it was dark even during mid noon time as the sunlight had to trickle down through the dense vegetation.
We also had a delightful drive across the Kudremukh Wildlife Sanctuary (Kudremukh being the highest peak of Karnataka) & then continued our journey covering many important spiritual locations before finally reaching Mangalore.
Mangalore was nothing similar to what I had in mind. It is a hip & vibrant city filled with classy hotel and malls. Our favourite pastime was to keep an eye on the continuous flow of visitors going to the mall from our hotel room window. I sort of felt that people did more shopping there then in Mumbai. Some parts did however retain the old world charm, with their winding irregular streets & mangalore tiled houses. The food there was simply superb & the pricing was nominal too.
The journey from Mangalore to Hassan took around 4hrs.Hassan is home to one of the most exquisitely carved series of temples in India. The temples of Halebid & Belur are famous all over the world with many foreign tourists streaming in at all times of the day. Then, there is also the gigantic monolithic statue of Gomateshwar in Shravanabelagola.
The terrain and the climate slowly started changing as we journeyed from the flat & dry plains of Hassan to the Mountainous & misty terrain of Coorg. We made a stop at Kushalnagar in Coorg District which is home to the Golden Temple situated in the SOS Tibetan village. We then crossed Madikeri to reach Talacauvery- the starting point of Cauvery river. We were welcomed by the Fog slowly creeping into the landscape & enveloping the Mountains above & the valleys below. Water is said to sprout from the spring in Talacauvery thrice in October. On our way back, we covered all the vanity points in Madikeri, including Omkareshwara temple which is built on the lines of a mosque.
I guess I so Karnataka at its best. I realized that there were so many pristine & scenic locations that a normal traveler may be unaware of, but I would prefer it to remain that way. The best guide a person can ever find is his own curiosity. That’s why I don’t usually prefer package tours. The satisfaction I get out of exploring a place on my own is much more than blindly following the tour operator & seeing what he wants me to see.
Some of the high points of the trip are:-
• Authentic Udupi food.
• Being mistaken for a Naxalite at the army security checkpost at the start of the Horanadu forest due to my attire (I had covered my face entirely to protect myself from heat & strong wind)
• A fox crossing our path while driving through Agumbe forest.
• Sipping hot piping tea in the middle of a tea plantation in Horanadu.
An interesting incident took place when I was returning from the trip via Chennai. It happened while the train was passing through Andhra .It made me want to go back to my roots so badly. Watch this space for more….
A family vacation is what everyone looks forward to.. But I had second thoughts about it.. My disinclination was mostly based on my exhaustion than anything else. I was fresh from the month long bombardment of exams and juries and all I needed was some time to unwind before commencing on any journey. My family practically forced me to join them and thank God they did. It would have been extremely unfortunate to have missed it.
I was wrong about the trip right from day one, I half expected it to be a sort of pilgrimage but it was in fact a delightful blend of fun & relaxation. The best part of the trip was that there was absolutely no planning involved as we had just decided to go the previous night before departure. With no booking whatsoever, we just went with the flow as we explored one location after another.
Our first stop was the coastal temple town of Udupi. We reached there in the morning & the ride there by bus was quiet pleasurable. There were these quaint little cottages with mangalore tiled roofs surrounded with lush greenery on all sides Some even had the backside of the cottages directly facing the sea. All that was required was a hammock tied between two coconut trees and Voila! you have your own house cum Beach resort. If a person ever gets bored of the sea (If at all such a thing is possible) there are always these thickly forested hills running adjacent to the sea side .With such abundant natural beauty, it is obvious that any person would fall in love with the place.
We visited the Shri Krishna Temple & set off by car to Kollur travelling across the Mukambika Wildlife Sanctuary and then to Shringeri travelling across the dense Agumbe Forest where it was dark even during mid noon time as the sunlight had to trickle down through the dense vegetation.
We also had a delightful drive across the Kudremukh Wildlife Sanctuary (Kudremukh being the highest peak of Karnataka) & then continued our journey covering many important spiritual locations before finally reaching Mangalore.
Mangalore was nothing similar to what I had in mind. It is a hip & vibrant city filled with classy hotel and malls. Our favourite pastime was to keep an eye on the continuous flow of visitors going to the mall from our hotel room window. I sort of felt that people did more shopping there then in Mumbai. Some parts did however retain the old world charm, with their winding irregular streets & mangalore tiled houses. The food there was simply superb & the pricing was nominal too.
The journey from Mangalore to Hassan took around 4hrs.Hassan is home to one of the most exquisitely carved series of temples in India. The temples of Halebid & Belur are famous all over the world with many foreign tourists streaming in at all times of the day. Then, there is also the gigantic monolithic statue of Gomateshwar in Shravanabelagola.
The terrain and the climate slowly started changing as we journeyed from the flat & dry plains of Hassan to the Mountainous & misty terrain of Coorg. We made a stop at Kushalnagar in Coorg District which is home to the Golden Temple situated in the SOS Tibetan village. We then crossed Madikeri to reach Talacauvery- the starting point of Cauvery river. We were welcomed by the Fog slowly creeping into the landscape & enveloping the Mountains above & the valleys below. Water is said to sprout from the spring in Talacauvery thrice in October. On our way back, we covered all the vanity points in Madikeri, including Omkareshwara temple which is built on the lines of a mosque.
I guess I so Karnataka at its best. I realized that there were so many pristine & scenic locations that a normal traveler may be unaware of, but I would prefer it to remain that way. The best guide a person can ever find is his own curiosity. That’s why I don’t usually prefer package tours. The satisfaction I get out of exploring a place on my own is much more than blindly following the tour operator & seeing what he wants me to see.
Some of the high points of the trip are:-
• Authentic Udupi food.
• Being mistaken for a Naxalite at the army security checkpost at the start of the Horanadu forest due to my attire (I had covered my face entirely to protect myself from heat & strong wind)
• A fox crossing our path while driving through Agumbe forest.
• Sipping hot piping tea in the middle of a tea plantation in Horanadu.
An interesting incident took place when I was returning from the trip via Chennai. It happened while the train was passing through Andhra .It made me want to go back to my roots so badly. Watch this space for more….
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